Choosing Groomsmen

I know! I know! It’s always about the bride and what’s happening on their special day… from choosing their dress to choosing the bridesmaids. What about the groom and his groomsmen. What’s a good way to go about choosing guys to be in your wedding?

Let’s start with the possible “gimmes” a brother(s), a dad and brother-in-law if you’ve known him for awhile and are considered friends.

Most men have a very tight group of guys that are always around and ready for whatever. These guys are our best friends. So the dilemma is who to choose. My bestman was my first friend. But the other guys came in like clockwork.

I chose from my life’s path. There was my brother who has been with me all my life. Next, I went with 2 guys from childhood, then one from high school and one from college. Last were my two new brother-in-laws whom I had known since dating my wife, (about 8 years). So I was set. You may use a similar system, but there is no right or wrong. You can’t worry about hurting people feelings if they weren’t that close or were new friends in last couple of years. However, using new friends work great if you haven’t kept in touch with older buddies.

When selecting potential groomsman, you may also want to consider the financial obligation of being a groomsman. They will have to rent a tux, on average renting could cost about $150 depending on what you have chosen. That’s not like bridesmaid dresses that could possibly (hopefully) be used again and again. There is also the cost of hotel accommodations, gas, airplane tickets, time off from work, etc… Don’t wait until the last minute when deciding. Give everyone enough notice so schedules can coordinate with your wedding date.

You may also need to choose a couple of guys to serve as ushers. The ushers will have their own duties but could stand in for a groomsman if an unfortunate event happened.

When it’s all said and done, don’t forget to choose the right gift for each guy. They don’t all have to receive the same thing. You can give gifts based on the personalities of each of your friends and what they mean to you.

It’s your choice, so don’t get bullied. Think carefully about your friends and choose wisely.

Making your day favorably special,

LeRon

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