Planning a Wedding can be stressful to everyone

We have all watched WeTV and seen how brides become monsters before their wedding day just so they can have the wedding of their dreams. I think most women who plan to get married someday have planned a wedding in their head from the time they were little, participated in a mock wedding in high school social class, been a bridesmaid or part of the planning. So you know there is stress somewhere in all this.

Weddings, are they stressful? Yes! For that matter, planning any event that involves food, guests and decorations is stressful. For whom is it stressful? The bride? The groom? The family? The wedding party? All of the above. I am not talking about just stressing your relationship with your future husband/wife-to-be. It can be frustrating and daunting on everyone involved.

Family members of both parties can impose their own input of what should and should not be. Be patient, listen and agree or disagree (it’s your wedding). If you don’t agree, explain your vision and see if it is doable. Event planners can be helpful in this manner. Just let everyone know early on that the coordinator(s) is in charge and she/he knows what your vision is. Let her/him come to you with any issues and then you make the decision. Don’t get caught in the middle of trying to please both sides of the family. If you’re paying for someone to coordinate your wedding make it money well spent.

Remember that you have a life and job in addition to planning your wedding and both will add more frustrations. You will have extra advice from co-workers, friends at the office and the no he/she didn’t crowd. Bringing this home and then trying to talk about wedding plans especially if you have a demanding career can spark arguments with your family and wedding party members. So nothing gets done and everybody’s upset now. This means tomorrow there is more to do, more stress!

If you’re business minded, you may want to conduct things in a business manner. Hold meetings with the coordinator, bridesmaid’s etc. Set schedules if you want certain things a certain way then assign responsibility. If the coordinator is handling everything then set scheduled meetings with her/him, you and the groom. That way everyone knows what’s going on. Use the computer and internet to set up a wedding website for couples or a personal wedding blog for your wedding party. Post timelines and itemize what’s done or not done. Overall, the key to keeping stress low is organization and finding solutions quickly.

There will have to be compromises on both sides (Bride & Groom). Find common ground quickly and keep everyone you can away from the decision making but you, the groom and the wedding event coordinator/planner. This will keep stress levels low and happiness high before the wedding.

Everyone will have their own perception of how your wedding should be. Remember it is your wedding. It’s about you and what you want.


Making your day favorably special,

LeRon
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